Y’all, it’s Friday before a long weekend and we truly were like “Where are we gonna find the motivation to work today.” And thennnnnnnnnnnnnn…. OMG A GIFT WAS GIVEN TO US IN THE FORM OF THIS ARTICLE “The men who feel left out of US abortion debate.” THE TITLE ALONE. THE PICTURE ALONE THAT ACCOMPANIES IT:
BEFORE we get to just stunting on this article we … I guess… have to say… like OF COURSE everyone is allowed to feel how they feel post-abortion. We don’t begrudge people their emotions, men or women. We would not judge someone for FEELING a certain way. Literally one of the ONLY good quotes in this article comes from our queen Amy Hagstrom-Miller saying she would like the debate to start “moving away from a conversation of rights to a conversation about dignity and respect, empathy and compassion.” SHE IS RIGHT. BUT THEN THE FUCKING ARTICLE FOLLOWS UP with “- a point not that far from sentiments held by some of those against abortion.”
WHY ARTICLE WHY?? WHY ARE YOU SO BAD AT EVERY TURN!?!
Because the thing about all this is like, obvs you are allowed to feel whatever and we respect that, YOU CAN’T FUCKING SUE YOUR SEX PARTNER FOR RIGHTS TO A FETUS. YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE TO GIVE A PERSON WITH A UTERUS PERMISSION TO HAVE AN ABORTION JUST BECAUSE YOU SQUIRTED SEED INTO HER ONCEEEEEEEE. GODDAMMIT HOW HARD IS THAT TO COMPREHEND?!?!
So this article is just a series of men who literally seem to have no sense of self-awareness (why would they have to, they’re men???) talking about how they felt sad post their partners having abortion and that means that … idk really… they think they should be able to control their partner's bodies. That’s the dark secret lurking in all this. They keep TRYING to assert “hey so, it’s not about taking away rights, I just want to be INVOLVED.” But… in actuality, lurking under everything they say is “Why wasn’t *I* consulted about her body!?!?!?!”
“Currently in the US, fathers have no legal rights to hinder the abortion of a pregnancy for which they are responsible.”
YES FUCKING THANK GOD!
“But now would-be fathers denied by abortion are speaking out.”
Oh my fucking god, really, really BRO?!?!?!
“He likens the mental and emotional anguish that can follow an abortion to battlefield post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).”
So this is someone who was like, chill about his partner having an abortion at the time because it would have affected his work plans, but now feels bad about it. To this we say, we don’t need to fucking hear a men’s side to know this story. This is the story of SO many shitty, hypocritical anti-abortion people. They benefit from abortion, they have one or two abortions, and then suddenly they regret it and NOW NO ONE CAN DO IT NO ONE DESERVES TO HAVE AN ABORTION. These people speaking out are being cruel if they are advocating against abortion. They are being selfish. They are saying their emotions matter most and that people DESERVE TO KNOW THEM. That their emotions inherently should affect OTHERS in deciding. And like, again, it’s OK to feel what you feel. IT IS NOT OK TO SAY “MY FEELINGS ARE THE MOST VALID AND THEY SHOULD BE USED TO SHAME OTHER PEOPLE.” And sooo many of these “post-abortive” (JESUS CHRIST) counseling groups are ANTI ABORTION. This is the website for a group sited in this article, Lumina:
OK so we would normally NOT link to this article but it is legit, such bullshit that you all need to read it and then donate all your money to the SANE person whose great quotes you read, Amy Hagstrom-Miller and Whole Woman’s.
Gah ok but one final thing. We could all PRETEND our lives would’ve been better if we’d not made any choice. But any therapist would say that’s a waste of time. I mean, you can’t go back and change that. And honestly, bro, just being like “babies are cute” would not MAGICALLY HAVE MADE YOU A GOOD DAD. PEOPLE REGRET BECOMING PARENTS ALL THE TIME! YOUR EMOTIONS DO NOT MEAN THAT SUDDENLY NO ONE SHOULD HAVE RIGHTS.
It’s all about controlling bodies. That’s what this boils down to. If it were about helping people go to therapy (WHICH IS HONESTLY, WHAT EVERYONE SHOULD DO AND WE SUPPORT IT), that’d be one thing. But AGAIN these counseling groups are MOSTLY anti-abortion.
We’re gonna leave you with this TRULY STUNNING paragraph from the article.
“There's so many contradictions around all this – it's abortion first, and be damned if otherwise,” says the Reverend Stephen Imbarrato, a Catholic priest and anti-abortion activist. Before entering the priesthood, Father Imbarrato got his girlfriend pregnant in 1975 and steered her toward having an abortion, finding out decades later she had been carrying twins. “Men regret lost fatherhood, as men are inherently called to be fathers.”
**RUNS OFF SCREAMING INTO THE DISTANCEEEEE*****